Minggu, 28 Februari 2010


Sepagian ini handphone-ku Nampak begitu sibuk, kebetulan ketiga kakak dan ibu juga menelfon, seolah bergiliran seolah menemani perjalananku. Jadilah kerap deringannya memanggil-manggil minta diangkat. Tak disangka adik tingkatku berkomentar spontan “mbak, sering ya di telfon sama keluarganya…”. Serasa kaget, aku ingat cemburuku atau tepatnya iriku sekitar 4 tahun yang lalu. Dulu aku merasa iri, teman sekelas juga sekostku begitu seringnya ditelfon. Setiap hari. Begitu biasanya, bahkan sampai 3-5 kali per harinya. Sedang aku, jarang sekali rasanya ibu apalagi bapak menelfon.
Ya, waktu itu aku merasa iri. Dan iriku selalu menggumpalkan kerinduan. Terlebih kondisiku yang jarang pulang meski jarak rumah yang terbilang relative dekat. Hanya 100 km saja. Maka sering sengaja aku menelfon rumah, tanpa tujuan jelas, hanya ingin menelfon. ya, benar-benar hanya ingin menelfon. hanya ingin mendengar suara ibu, juga bapak. Kadang juga hanya ingin tahu, sedang apa mereka. Dan aku hanya ingin bilang “ doain adek ya…”. Jarang mengalir cerita. Tapi selalu berasa,, ada kelegaan yang mengalir setelahnya.

Belakangan baru kusadari. Intensitas telfon tidak selalu berbanding lurus dengan besarnya perhatian. Terlebih bagi orang-orang yang tidak memverbalkan perasaannya. Dulu mungkin ibu memang mengkhawatirkanku, si bungsu yang baru belajar adaptasi di kota orang. Tapi mungkin ibu ingin aku mandiri, juga mungkin berarti bahwa ibu percaya penuh pada ku. Apalagi ibu tahu bahwa aku memang jarang bisa bercerita. Jarang menutur kejadian padanya.
Dan setelah diingat-ingat, ternyata tak jarang juga ibuku menelfon. dan hampir sama denganku, ibu pun bilang bahwa beliau hanya ingin menelfon saja… hanya ingin mendengar kabarku. Mungkin ibu juga merasakan rindu. Berteman sepi di rumah.. (kalo ini sih gara-garanya kalo pulang rumah jadi rame,, soalnya jadi sering debat, dll –maafin adek ya bu…-)

Ah,, aku jadi malu… cemburuku dulu benar-benar lucu. Nyata benar kekanakanku…

ibu, bapak, maafkan adek yang tidak bisa cepat menangkap maksud kalian,,,

aku benar-benar cemburu. cemburu hanya oleh hal yang sebenarnya kecil, sepele,,, hanya karena tefon yang jarang kuterima

uji kepribadian

Determined Realists like to bear responsibility and welcome challenges. They are stable, reliable persons. External contacts are very important to them; they mix well and are very active. They are excellent organisers and are very happy when things are done correctly and punctually; they can quickly react impatiently if others are not as conscientious, orderly and dutiful as they are. They prefer structured work which produces visible results quickly to abstract, long-drawn-out processes. Determined Realists have no problem with routine as long as it serves efficiency. However, they very much dislike unexpected and unpredictable occurrences which mess up their careful plans. Once they have committed themselves to a cause they do this with dedication and are willing to make considerable sacrifices for it.

Determined Realists do not avoid conflicts and criticism but face up to them and look for solutions. As they have a keen eye for the errors and shortcomings of others and are often quick at expressing criticism, they sometimes rub people up the wrong way especially when they lose their temper and jump to conclusions. Due to their marked sense of justice they are quickly willing to correct themselves and never take offence if someone speaks to them frankly. You do not have to seek hidden motives with them; you always know where you are. Determined Realists are often found in executive positions as they combine commitment, competence and the ability to assert themselves. In their spare time, they often also accept responsibility in clubs and other institutions.

Traditions rate highly with Determined Realists. They attend every family event and never forget a birthday or wedding anniversary. Family and friends are very important to them. With their open, communicative manner, they find it easy to get to know people and have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. They are never superficial, but reliable and loyal friends who are always there when they are needed. Determined Realists take their relationships very seriously - they dream of finding a partner for life. In a love relationship, they seek above all stability and loyalty and here, too, they are willing to invest a lot in a harmonious togetherness. Determined Realists master crises or difficult phases with composure; they would never think of breaking a promise given. As a partner, one can always rely on their support.

Adjectives which describe your type: extroverted, practical, logical, planning, direct, structured, conscientious, responsible-minded, self-confident, critical, honest, orderly, reliable, controlled, objective, able to concentrate, resolved, purposeful, communicative, with a sense of duty, tradition-conscious, stable, able to deal with conflicts, solution-oriented, relationship-oriented, efficient, impatient, warm-hearted, competition-oriented
Determined Realist: Career

As a Determined Realist, you are one of the extroverted personality types. You enjoy working in a team as a colleague or a team leader. Because you have an outgoing nature, you approach others easily and openly; working in solitude by yourself would be punishment for you. You know how to appreciate a harmonic working climate, but the relationship to your colleagues is not as important to you as to some of the other personality types. For you, the task always comes first and your colleagues and/or superiors are second. As long as everybody is working as disciplined and determined as you are, everything is just fine.

However, if you sense that the work is suffering from irrelevant disputes or private matters that have nothing to do with the job, you have no problem expressing your criticism, and making your team toe the line. It would never occur to you to sacrifice a good result in your work on the altar of personal moods, or in favor of a conflict free environment. On the other hand, you are one of the personality types who is best at handling criticism, and swallow negative feedback without brooding or sink into depression. Consequently, you also can hold your ground in professions where the climate is a little rougher and more competition oriented.

You are an excellent organizer, and a genius at planning and maintaining a workflow that is precise and on time. You enjoy dealing with details and facts, developing rules and guidelines, and establishing standards. Here, your natural sense for systematic and love of order prove to be advantageous; as well as your acute aptitude to see the most efficient of all possible approaches.

Where your work is concerned, “reliability” is your second name. You have a real problem leaving things to chance, and you hate nothing more than when something unexpected happens, thus throwing your carefully laid plans into chaos without warning. When a project you conceived is implemented without any hiccups and is brought to a good end, this is your greatest joy.

It is a good idea not to be looking for an unstructured environment where constant flexibility and continual re-organizing are the order of the day. A certain measure of work schedule stability, reliability and predictability should be given, as well as the guaranteed availability of necessary resources. However, you have no problem dealing with considerable pressure where your performance requirements are concerned. Your spirit, infectious energy, and perseverance, permit you to welcome challenges and easily deal with them. A little action and variety are important ingredients of your ideal job, as well. Endless and identical procedures and people quickly bore your inquisitive and quick mind.

Determined Realist: Love

Your personality type belongs to the most loyal and most faithful types. Even though you are able to fall in love head over heels if the stars are properly aligned, recklessness in dealing with your feelings, and those of others, is totally foreign to you. A relationship is a very important obligation for you. You take it very seriously, and give it a very important place in your life. You are not scared off with sentences like “until death does us part”; on the contrary.

Security, responsibility, and stability are very important to you, and you strive for a permanent personal relationship. For that reason, you are very comfortable in the established traditions such as marriage and family. Once you make a promise, one can be sure that you’ll do everything in your power to keep it, and this especially applies to matters of love. Especially in the “tough days” of a marriage, you turn out to be your partner’s invaluable harbor. You expect the same from him/her. Unfaithfulness and flightiness are going to hurt you more than most other types. Just remember that when the time comes to choose a partner, because not all personality types are as consistent as you need your partner to be.

Determined Realists like you are well grounded, and are much too sober and smart to think that in a long-term relationships, everything is going to be rosy. You are aware that highs and lows are a part of love and life, and difficult times are not going to make you unsure or discouraged. Instead of unending passion, trust, and a deep and continuing friendship between you and your partner are important to you because you know that these feelings are better suited to weather the turbulence of everyday life. Your contribution to the relationship primarily are continuity, and absolute devotion to your partner and your family. Your sense of purpose, and your need to take charge are also evident in the way you deal with your partner. You are probably the organizer, manage most of everyday life, and are in charge of your social contacts as a couple or family, as well. This does not mean that you want to be particularly dominating; you just have a pretty good notion of how things are supposed to work, and you just implement them without hesitation.

iseng-iseng ikutan uji kepribadian di ipersonic typologi,,, ternyata... menurut hasilnya aku termasuk tipe realis bertekad,,, iya kah?