Mozaik Lampu Merah

Lampu merah. Perempatan jalan. Mungkin itu tempat tersering yang kamu kunjungi dalam keseharian, ah tapi apa iya? Aku tidak tahu pasti, seperti biasa, aku hanya menduga-duga. Dan tepat saat lampu berganti rupa dari kuning ke merah, waktu yang selalu kamu harap, kamu berlari, nyengir, mencari target operasi…

“mbak makan,, minta buat makan…” memelas, kamu tunjukan wajah itu.

Jujur saja, aku bimbang. Aku tahu kamu memang perlu rupiah, tapi apa begini caranya? Tidak sulit memang mengulurkan keeping melati atau jalak bali, bahkan jika yang ku keluarkan hanya sebiji perak kakatua raja pun kamu pasti senang, segera kabur, lari ke pengendara selanjutnya. Tapi apa ini bijak?

Ah kamu ini masih anak-anak. Aku tak tahu bagaimana kehidupan bisa membawamu ke bawah terik jalanan. Apa itu pilihanmu? Atau ada yang menyuruhmu? Atau bahkan kamu merasa nyaman bersama debu jalanan karena rupiah mudah bergelincir ke tanganmu? Lagi-lagi aku tidak tahu..

Ya, kamu ini masih bocah kecil..

“sudah nggak sekolah, kan sudah lulus SMP. Sekolahnya sudah selesai,,” lugu jawabmu waktu itu, saat kutanya tentang sekolahmu. Masih dengan mimik nyengirmu, lucu. Aku pikir kamu ini anak baik. Saking lugunya, kamu menganggap sekolah itu cukup sebatas lulus sampai tamat es-em-pe, dan sudah. Persis sama kayak program pemerintah yang sering digembor-gemborkan : wajib belajar 9 tahun. Ah mestinya wajib belajar itu nggak cukup 9 tahun, mestinya lebih,, lebih,,, dan lebih,,, hm,, atau jangan-jangan kamu malah bingung buat apa sekolah? Jangan-jangan kamu putus asa dan beranggapan tidak ada guna sekolah?

Terlalu banyak persangkaan…

kepalaku penuh berbagai Tanya…

ah,, kamu ini masih anak kecil nak,,, maafkan aku nak,, bukan maksud berbuat jahat padamu. Bukan juga terlalu sayang terhadap koin-koin ku. Aku hanya berpikir, bahwa ini tak baik untukmu. Tak baik jika kemudian tertaman dalam benakmu, “mudah saja mengumpul rupiah, cukup menadahkan tangan, tak perlu lah yang namanya kerja”. Aku takut kamu jadi tidak mandiri. Aku takut kamu jadi ogah belajar dan bekerja dengan benar di hari-hari nanti. Aku takut jika kelak kamu akan lebih senang menggantungkan hidupmu pada pemberian orang. Dan aku lebih takut jika hari-hari mu yang begini, pelan-pelan membunuh mimpimu,,,

maafkan aku nak…
moga kelak engkau bertemu dengan hari-hari yang lebih indah, lebih berwarna dari yang sekarang ini. moga engkau mengerti,,,
 

uji kepribadian

Determined Realists like to bear responsibility and welcome challenges. They are stable, reliable persons. External contacts are very important to them; they mix well and are very active. They are excellent organisers and are very happy when things are done correctly and punctually; they can quickly react impatiently if others are not as conscientious, orderly and dutiful as they are. They prefer structured work which produces visible results quickly to abstract, long-drawn-out processes. Determined Realists have no problem with routine as long as it serves efficiency. However, they very much dislike unexpected and unpredictable occurrences which mess up their careful plans. Once they have committed themselves to a cause they do this with dedication and are willing to make considerable sacrifices for it.

Determined Realists do not avoid conflicts and criticism but face up to them and look for solutions. As they have a keen eye for the errors and shortcomings of others and are often quick at expressing criticism, they sometimes rub people up the wrong way especially when they lose their temper and jump to conclusions. Due to their marked sense of justice they are quickly willing to correct themselves and never take offence if someone speaks to them frankly. You do not have to seek hidden motives with them; you always know where you are. Determined Realists are often found in executive positions as they combine commitment, competence and the ability to assert themselves. In their spare time, they often also accept responsibility in clubs and other institutions.

Traditions rate highly with Determined Realists. They attend every family event and never forget a birthday or wedding anniversary. Family and friends are very important to them. With their open, communicative manner, they find it easy to get to know people and have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. They are never superficial, but reliable and loyal friends who are always there when they are needed. Determined Realists take their relationships very seriously - they dream of finding a partner for life. In a love relationship, they seek above all stability and loyalty and here, too, they are willing to invest a lot in a harmonious togetherness. Determined Realists master crises or difficult phases with composure; they would never think of breaking a promise given. As a partner, one can always rely on their support.


Adjectives which describe your type: extroverted, practical, logical, planning, direct, structured, conscientious, responsible-minded, self-confident, critical, honest, orderly, reliable, controlled, objective, able to concentrate, resolved, purposeful, communicative, with a sense of duty, tradition-conscious, stable, able to deal with conflicts, solution-oriented, relationship-oriented, efficient, impatient, warm-hearted, competition-oriented
Determined Realist: Career

As a Determined Realist, you are one of the extroverted personality types. You enjoy working in a team as a colleague or a team leader. Because you have an outgoing nature, you approach others easily and openly; working in solitude by yourself would be punishment for you. You know how to appreciate a harmonic working climate, but the relationship to your colleagues is not as important to you as to some of the other personality types. For you, the task always comes first and your colleagues and/or superiors are second. As long as everybody is working as disciplined and determined as you are, everything is just fine.

However, if you sense that the work is suffering from irrelevant disputes or private matters that have nothing to do with the job, you have no problem expressing your criticism, and making your team toe the line. It would never occur to you to sacrifice a good result in your work on the altar of personal moods, or in favor of a conflict free environment. On the other hand, you are one of the personality types who is best at handling criticism, and swallow negative feedback without brooding or sink into depression. Consequently, you also can hold your ground in professions where the climate is a little rougher and more competition oriented.

You are an excellent organizer, and a genius at planning and maintaining a workflow that is precise and on time. You enjoy dealing with details and facts, developing rules and guidelines, and establishing standards. Here, your natural sense for systematic and love of order prove to be advantageous; as well as your acute aptitude to see the most efficient of all possible approaches.

Where your work is concerned, “reliability” is your second name. You have a real problem leaving things to chance, and you hate nothing more than when something unexpected happens, thus throwing your carefully laid plans into chaos without warning. When a project you conceived is implemented without any hiccups and is brought to a good end, this is your greatest joy.

It is a good idea not to be looking for an unstructured environment where constant flexibility and continual re-organizing are the order of the day. A certain measure of work schedule stability, reliability and predictability should be given, as well as the guaranteed availability of necessary resources. However, you have no problem dealing with considerable pressure where your performance requirements are concerned. Your spirit, infectious energy, and perseverance, permit you to welcome challenges and easily deal with them. A little action and variety are important ingredients of your ideal job, as well. Endless and identical procedures and people quickly bore your inquisitive and quick mind.


Determined Realist: Love

Your personality type belongs to the most loyal and most faithful types. Even though you are able to fall in love head over heels if the stars are properly aligned, recklessness in dealing with your feelings, and those of others, is totally foreign to you. A relationship is a very important obligation for you. You take it very seriously, and give it a very important place in your life. You are not scared off with sentences like “until death does us part”; on the contrary.

Security, responsibility, and stability are very important to you, and you strive for a permanent personal relationship. For that reason, you are very comfortable in the established traditions such as marriage and family. Once you make a promise, one can be sure that you’ll do everything in your power to keep it, and this especially applies to matters of love. Especially in the “tough days” of a marriage, you turn out to be your partner’s invaluable harbor. You expect the same from him/her. Unfaithfulness and flightiness are going to hurt you more than most other types. Just remember that when the time comes to choose a partner, because not all personality types are as consistent as you need your partner to be.

Determined Realists like you are well grounded, and are much too sober and smart to think that in a long-term relationships, everything is going to be rosy. You are aware that highs and lows are a part of love and life, and difficult times are not going to make you unsure or discouraged. Instead of unending passion, trust, and a deep and continuing friendship between you and your partner are important to you because you know that these feelings are better suited to weather the turbulence of everyday life. Your contribution to the relationship primarily are continuity, and absolute devotion to your partner and your family. Your sense of purpose, and your need to take charge are also evident in the way you deal with your partner. You are probably the organizer, manage most of everyday life, and are in charge of your social contacts as a couple or family, as well. This does not mean that you want to be particularly dominating; you just have a pretty good notion of how things are supposed to work, and you just implement them without hesitation.

iseng-iseng ikutan uji kepribadian di ipersonic typologi,,, ternyata... menurut hasilnya aku termasuk tipe realis bertekad,,, iya kah?

Batasan Hukuman Anak

JANGAN MENYUAP

Boleh saja memberi imbalan kepada anak atas sikapnya yang baik. Hal itu menegaskan bahwa ia perlu bersikap baik pada kesempatan lainnya. Tapi, jangan menyuap atau memberi imbalan jika anak sedang berulah. “Jangan pernah mengatakan kepada anak akan membelikan sesuatu jika dia berhenti menangis,” kata Maureen O’Brien, Ph.D, spesialis perkembangan anak di Boston. “Dia akan belajar dengan cepat bahwa dengan sedikit berulah, ia bisa mendapatkan perhatian ibunya dan sebuah boneka Barbie baru.”

KONSISTEN

Putuskan perbuatan apa saja yang dilarang di rumah, misalnya seenaknya memberi julukan kepada orang dan berbohong, kemudian pikirkan hukuman yang tepat dan adil setiap kali anak Anda melanggar aturan itu.

JANGAN MENDIAMKAN

Teknik ini kadang kala kita berlakukan kepada pasangan kita, namun jangan pernah terhadap anak-anak. Pertama, perbuatan itu memuat pesan: rasa sayang dan perhatian Anda bisa berubah dan saat anak Anda berulah, Anda memutuskan rasa sayang dan perhatian Anda. Kedua, banyak anak yang juga sama marahnya dengan Anda, merasa lebih suka Anda meninggalkan mereka. Pendekatan yang lebih baik adalah memberitahu anak bahwa Anda perlu menenangkan diri dan memikirkan hukuman yang tepat untuknya.

JELASKAN KEINGINAN ANDA

Anda harus menjelaskan, bagaimana Anda mengharapkan anak-anak berperilaku pada situasi tertentu. Misalnya, jika Anda pergi ke taman, Anda bisa menyatakan bahwa mereka boleh bemain di dalam taman tapi tidak boleh di area parkir. Mereka boleh bermain seluncuran, tapi tidak boleh dengan kepala duluan. Bicarakan hal ini sebelum memulai aktivitas dan katakan apa hukumannya jika mereka tidak menaati kata-kata Anda.

JANGAN MENGHUKUM BERLEBIHAN

Anak-anak belajar dari kesalahan dan mereka tidak semestinya dihukum setiap kali melakukan kesalahan. “Simpan hukuman itu untuk saat dimana anak Anda bena-benar membangkang dengan sengaja,” kata Dr. Peters. “Dengan memberikannya hukuman yang adil bagi perilaku buruknya, Anda mengajarinya membuat pilihan – yang merupakan inti kehidupan.”

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Belajar Optimal

Alhamdulillah, hari Sabtu tanggal 19 juli kemaren berkesempatan mengikuti acara diskusi tentang potensi otak dan belajar optimal di FE UNS.

pak Nug menyampaikan banyak hal,,
mulai tentang otak, tentang hal/faktor yang mempengaruhi belajar dan macem2 lagi..
ternyata faktor kecemasan sangat mempengaruhi proses belajar lho...
selain itu faktor penting dalam mencapai keberhasilan dalam belajar adalah tentang penilaian diri, yakni bagaimana kita menilai diri kita sendiri..
mungkin sesuai dengan "Allah mengikuti persangkaan Hambanya.."

yups!betapa pun sulitnya,, optimis saja lah!!